asset catalog perf: use wipe_timestamp for asset_key filtering
Using SQL to filter asset keys instead of the multiple round trips to
check wipe status improves asset catalog table query perf by another 50%.
We can now just compare wipe_timestamp, last_materialization_timestamp to see if
an asset key exists (is not wiped).
Test Plan: bk
Reviewers: owen, sandyryza
Reviewed By: owen
Differential Revision: https://dagster.phacility.com/D8877